One of my friend, good friend, loving friend, possibly one of the closest, said “you can be part of all my journeys”. Seems exciting isnt it… for me too.
Then the thoughts started running, through my mind. Actually speeding.
What are the journeys a man and woman have to be part of together?
Many… too many.
Its not just about being together, its much more than that it is about living together, not in the so-called “live-in” sense.
The journey gets complex at different stages.
When you are just friends, you tend to be more free with each other. Whether a man or woman, you have the ability to convince her or him at every stage of the association. Its such a wonderful period.
Once from friends, you turn into closest friends (by that I mean really close, the stage from friends to lovers), you tend to share your intimate feelings, which moving towards mental and physical closeness. Feels good right.
As lovers it turns into a commitment. A commitment to be together.
As a married couple it gets intense, and better and better, but… but…
Here is Caveat
Nothing is as smooth and simple as it seems… its never all that rosy unless the two involved are committed to themselves.
As friends life is always good as there is no commitment actually there is but very less.
Being close friends, if the head is on the shoulders, its all good and nice else. Suddenly you have heads turning for every action you do. Every look that you put on another man or woman. The questions are there but not so forceful. This is where the comfort zone of the couple is challenged. If it doesnt happen, well and good, you are safe.
As lovers if things are right everything is right. This is a stage where each individual demands something. Whether it is mental attention, personal, physical, monetory everything that is part of marraige. Just that there is no marriage at this stage. The only spike that can go through this relationship is no trust, suspicion, everything that makes you think bad about your man or woman. Well only women dont crib, men do it and do it strongly. Personal Experience, not mine though.
Marriage (*phew wipe sweat in the cold winter month*)
Well different people have different perspectives. Experience counts. Marriage is a combination of all that you can expect from a person. You want him or her to be your friend, best friend, and lover. The biggest problem in this relationship is lack of attention and trust.
It gets worse when you try to do everything you can, and still you are toldyou are short of something. Worse is if you are made the “criminal” of all offences such as you didnt clean the plate properly, you didnt keep the phone in the drawer, you have time for work but no time for me. The list is long. I know many of you have had a very good experience, and I say it was your GOOD LUCK. Well truly.
I have dreamt a lot about moving on journey, that is peaceful, with a woman who I can say I am a friend of, close friend of, lover of…
I stop and think that it will never happen. My Ideology is different, that of live and let live. Breathe and let breathe.
The journey must be completed, now it is somehow.
Friend which journey would you want to be a part of?